When a relationship breaks

There are a number of things involved...hope i try to cover them..now i know that love just happens,but if we know that our parents wont at any cost accept it,we should'nt get ourselves involved in any such thing as it will for sure bring heart break to the girl and the guy.there is no point in disobeying parents.there are alota common misconceptions in our society and the half truths are being told and exploited.agree that we arnt suppose to disobey our parents.but the decision of marriage is our birth right.i can quote Quranic verses if i would've remembered as i read it in detail when i myself was a student of islamic education.according to a hadih,a woman went to our Prophet P.B.U.H and inquired that her father had forcefully gotten her married to a man she dislikes,Prophet immediatly ordered to terminate the nikah. Similarly,there are Quranic verses clearly indicating that marriage without the will of the child is completly prohibited.they should'nt emotional blackmail their children into doing something that they might regret in future.thats where they should understand their child and what he/she wants rather than to entangle themselves in caste and creed system and other man made differences.every relation that God has made has its certain limitations..parents no doubt have alota rights but marriage is the person's own decision.again agreed that parents' experience is more.we need not be selfish,but here the point is,are parents suppose to dictate our lives in whichever way they want?after all they are humans as well,bound to make mistakes as well,and they as responsible adults should realise that.again not saying that children should go against them,but parents should know where to draw the line for their child's own sanity and happiness as well.i've seen disastrous cases of divorces,forceful decisions made by parents.yet at the same time,seen happy marriages with parents consent.its fate,you dont know where you gonna land..but whatever the results maybe,atleast you will be blaming yourself afterwards,not your parents.
Alot of mixed things and twisted ideas..ultimately parent's rigid attitude is something mostly children have to face as its more of a social dogma rather than 100% religion that we so easily speak of.

wew..i agree nyda..so rite..

but still i will repeat wat dada said..live for others..we live for ourselvs everyday,..just live 1 day for others..n teme hw did u feel

sc0rpi0n wrote:wew..i agree nyda..so rite..

but still i will repeat wat dada said..live for others..we live for ourselvs everyday,..just live 1 day for others..n teme hw did u feel

Really you feel we live for ourselves.thats quite ironic.we dont make our decisions,like mine were'nt made by me.and i do regret not speaking up for myself when i should've had.but thats a different topic.you say,live for others and then tell how it feels..well i'll tell you how it feels,it feels tornd and hollow from inside,at the loss of so many things that you might've achieved but at the same time you try to console yourselves that atleast you made your decision makers happy.sc0rp you mentioned your life as an example,i dont want to include in it but keeping all the things aside.when exactly did you accept that proposal?was'nt it when you knew you had lost that girl you were with before.had that proposal came while you were in a relationship with that lady,your situation and ideas must've been completly different from now.but things happen mostly for a good reason,and its even better if we realise that good reason..this is a huge decision(marriage),and it has a lifetime impact.just saying that parents and especially children should be involved in this decision making rather than regretting and blaming later.
Peace out..

sc0rpi0n wrote:wew..i agree nyda..so rite..

but still i will repeat wat dada said..live for others..we live for ourselvs everyday,..just live 1 day for others..n teme hw did u feel

Really you feel we live for ourselves.thats quite ironic.we dont make our decisions,like mine were'nt made by me.and i do regret not speaking up for myself when i should've had.but thats a different topic.you say,live for others and then tell how it feels..well i'll tell you how it feels,it feels tornd and hollow from inside,at the loss of so many things that you might've achieved but at the same time you try to console yourselves that atleast you made your decision makers happy.sc0rp you mentioned your life as an example,i dont want to include in it but keeping all the things aside.when exactly did you accept that proposal?was'nt it when you knew you had lost that girl you were with before.had that proposal came while you were in a relationship with that lady,your situation and ideas must've been completly different from now.but things happen mostly for a good reason,and its even better if we realise that good reason..this is a huge decision(marriage),and it has a lifetime impact.just saying that parents and especially children should be involved in this decision making rather than regretting and blaming later.
Peace out..

sc0rpi0n wrote:wew..i agree nyda..so rite..

but still i will repeat wat dada said..live for others..we live for ourselvs everyday,..just live 1 day for others..n teme hw did u feel

Really you feel we live for ourselves.thats quite ironic.we dont make our decisions,like mine were'nt made by me.and i do regret not speaking up for myself when i should've had.but thats a different topic.you say,live for others and then tell how it feels..well i'll tell you how it feels,it feels tornd and hollow from inside,at the loss of so many things that you might've achieved but at the same time you try to console yourselves that atleast you made your decision makers happy.sc0rp you mentioned your life as an example,i dont want to include in it but keeping all the things aside.when exactly did you accept that proposal?was'nt it when you knew you had lost that girl you were with before.had that proposal came while you were in a relationship with that lady,your situation and ideas must've been completly different from now.but things happen mostly for a good reason,and its even better if we realise that good reason..this is a huge decision(marriage),and it has a lifetime impact.just saying that parents and especially children should be involved in this decision making rather than regretting and blaming later.
Peace out..

sc0rpi0n wrote:wew..i agree nyda..so rite..

but still i will repeat wat dada said..live for others..we live for ourselvs everyday,..just live 1 day for others..n teme hw did u feel

Really you feel we live for ourselves.thats quite ironic.we dont make our decisions,like mine were'nt made by me.and i do regret not speaking up for myself when i should've had.but thats a different topic.you say,live for others and then tell how it feels..well i'll tell you how it feels,it feels tornd and hollow from inside,at the loss of so many things that you might've achieved but at the same time you try to console yourselves that atleast you made your decision makers happy.sc0rp you mentioned your life as an example,i dont want to include in it but keeping all the things aside.when exactly did you accept that proposal?was'nt it when you knew you had lost that girl you were with before.had that proposal came while you were in a relationship with that lady,your situation and ideas must've been completly different from now.but things happen mostly for a good reason,and its even better if we realise that good reason..this is a huge decision(marriage),and it has a lifetime impact.just saying that parents and especially children should be involved in this decision making rather than regretting and blaming later.
Peace out..

nyda i knw wat u r tryin to say..whn i got tht proposal..i was in realtion wdh her..but i can not tell u here y i acceptd tht proposal..so will tell u later wat xactly happnd..
n knw marriage is a huge decision..i took ma time n i decided in 10 secs tht wat shuld i do..n i dnt have any regrets acceptin tht proposal..every1 is v happy..n even im happy n i think thts the thing wat matters..

As i said before that im not taking you life as an example here..its good that you and your family is happy and there is nothing more important than this.happy for you,indeed i am..
Cindzz hope you got my point.wish you success and happiness my dearest sweetheart.

tough question huh

sc0rpion bro your situation is very rare, i mean its rarely to a child to accept the person which is choosen by their parents particularly when it comes to a partner in life.

our parents always thought that they knows what's best for their childrens so we shouldn't disobey them but atleast parents should ask their kids what they like or whom they like and what makes their child happy.

we being a child of our parents, as much as possible we don't wanna hurt them by disobeying what they wish but if you are ready to suffer for the sake of your parents feelings then obey what they wish.

my twin witch sis, do you believe in sacrifice?