When a relationship breaks

What happens when two people so much in love cannot be together because of circumstances or issues?should they cast all aside and just concentrate on their love for each other?or should they pay heed to circumstances n family disregarding their love for each other? This question really troubles me. . Has any of you got an answer

by the way go0d questi0n cinder cuz this kind 0f thing happened t0 me but n0w its s0lved
i just c0ncentrated 0n my l0ve and by disregarding 0f 0ur parents 0ur l0ve went higher and higher

Hmmm umair but do you realise that all people cant disregard their parents will. . After all they do for you,how can you reward them with disobedience

Well ... I feel that parents should understand what their kids want. Its not our parents who have to live with our life partners its US who try to adjust with those new relations . Even in Islam a muslim gal is allowed to choose her partner . Why do parents ruin their kids happiness and forcefully get them married to the one they dont want ?? This is really mean of them. Everyone know who they will be happy with and who they think can keep them happy . My answer to ur question is try hard and if doesnt work then try hardest to get ur love . Or else there'll be three lives ruined , urs , ur loverz and that guy's who ur parents have chosen for u cuz ur body will be his but ur soul will never be ...
Keep trying untill u lose and ur parents win.

Sometimes one does not have the strength to fight one's parents. . And Islam also says , UFFIN WALA TANHAR - which sums up to dont disobey dont answer back. . So i dont think religion is a point here romi

Religon is not a point here ? U saying this ? Wow. U know what we are muslims and we do what our religion says so religion is the point here . Our parents expect us to obey them yeah ? And what abt our rights ? Islam even says that "fight for ur rights"if u dont get ur rights how could people expect u to do ur duties ?

yaar cinder i kn0w we sh0uldn't disregard 0ur parents but as r0ma said parents sh0uld understand what thier kids want and f0r my parents they kn0w what is n0w better f0r me. S0metimes parents get c0nfused ab0ut thier children's will!!! that if thier wills are suitable f0r them 0r n0t anyways we sh0uld disregard 0ur parents we have t0 insist them that what we are willing f0r is better f0r us and why

kids are supposed to obey their parents in any case until they ask u to worship anyone else xcept Allah.. thats what our religion says... Now regarding love and marriage, one should keep in mind that parents always think best for their children,but exceptions are there also.... If u love somone, and ur parents are not ready to accept that particular person, there would be certainly a gud reason behind it, afterall they have the experience which u lack... On the other hand, if parents totally ignore ur opinion , thts really not fair. one should fyt for his rights but dnt go that far that u cut off ur relation wid them..

hmm, its lil confusing, but keep in mind, we will also be mama papa after sometime :-) what we will do today , the other day our children will do same wid us :-)

U just put wot i think in words very nice g . . Romi we are muslims n Allah has given a very big place to parents , even greater than our rights. . So we as children have absolutely no right to hurt them, to disappoint them. . Even if we defy them tel me how u expect to get happiness without a parent's blessing?and my rulz i stil feel that u cant hurt yr parents cuz they've gone to a lotta trouble to raise us

mani and cindi read my posts carefully i have never used the word DISOBEY ur parents. i just said that where our parents expect us to do our duties and obey them why cant they try and understand us too ?if we think we can be happy with that certain someone we should be allowed to get married to that someone . i know a friend of mine who's going through this situation she has been totally ignored with her choice and forcefully making get married to a guy she doesnt like at all . what is this ?

hey roma, i didnt say anything about anyone's opinion.. just put forward my own point of view...
and regarding ur friend, hmm, i will again say that her parents should have taken into account everything before making any decision, and parents always think best for their children..
Her parents too, must convince her before taking any step...

cinder' post ;
and my rulz i stil feel that u cant hurt yr parents cuz they've gone to a lotta trouble to raise us

what y0u wanna say ????????

Wanna say that as kids disregarding our parents wishes would hurt them na? And romi maybe this friend of yours has absolutely no way of hurting her parents?maybe she feels that compared to her parents happiness her own happiness takes second seat? Maybe to her, her parents make up a major part of the world?yes her parents have to take her choice into consideration but maybe her parents feel they know best and that their daughter would be safer with a guy they picked or chose?after all,no parents will wish ill for their child na

lol cindi i find it really funny though
but wont answer cuz i know the situation . parents always think right about their child u wanna say this ?? yeah okay i accept and what about the second person ?? the guy/girl ??? what about him/her ??? they think their so called RIGHT DECISION wouldnt make any difference to the person whom their son/daughter are in love with ? parents decision should be equally fair to their child and the one their child love ... when two people are truly and madly in love parents should understand their situation instead of making it miserable for their child and his/her lover. in my friends situation something i find amazing that when she hates their parents choice why r they forcing her ??? islam doesnt give the lesson of forcing a daughter to marry someone she doesnt like !!!!!

0ye cindi ab samajh bi ja tmahin samjana 0nth k0 rakshaw main bithana h0gaya hai ab

Why are you putting a camel in a rickshaw umair?romi wen parents beg u bout something , u tend not to think of forcing n right n wrong. . U only realise this that cuz o u yr parents are helpless n in sorrow. . So their choice naturally becomes yours cuz u'd like to put them outta your misery

if u love someone that means u put ur parents in sorrow and they become helpless so they start ignoring ur wishes and happiness ? loving someone is not a sin

But disobeying parents is a sin. . Yup u make them unhappy wen u defy them

lol defy ?? how ?

By going against their wishes of course

and their wish is to never fall in love ? as it is a sin ?

Their wish is obedience. . Not much to ask for surely

Wel.....!
I my idea it just brake heart, and cindi sista nice avator pic

uhm well really nice topic ella sish,..

i had an xperince just few weeks bak..i had an affair as u all knw..n most of u guys knw tht hw much i loved her..but few weeks bak she left me by sayin,.. ITS OVER n we were on phone tht time..n i literally collapsed..i was shattered into pieces...i still dnt knw the reason y she left me..but anyways im tryin to put maslf together..

n nw im engaged to a girl whom ma parents choosed for me..n honestly im v happy to b wdh her..n even she is v happy..
so point is..i acceptd the truth..n i didnt creatd any prob for them..i did wat they wanted..n my m0m dad r v happy..
so sumtymz u have to obey ur parents decision...even tho if u dnt even wana think about it..
n leme tell u 1 thing..i got engaged xactly aftr 1 day on whch i had breakup wdh my gf..
bottom line is..im happy v happy..
so try n make odrz happy instead of being selfish..

well said ali , LIVE FOR OTHERS